For most people, it begins slowly: from the love nights of the beginning, in the middle ages, waking nights with crying children and times with too little sleep become too much work. Anyone looking forward from there can see hair loss, hormonal imbalances and decreasing passion pass in his mind's eye. No nice idea - and not necessary. But menopausal sexuality is often still a taboo topic. Since the menopause of women in the sixties was regarded as a rather morbid event, the search for a suitable therapy began.
The hormone replacement therapy
The researchers found what they were looking for in hormone replacement therapy, which was designed to compensate for natural estrogen deficiency. The aim of the therapy was to reduce hot flushes and discomfort and to reduce the risk of arteriosclerosis and thus heart attack. In the meantime, hormone replacement therapy has come under heavy fire because of the demonstrably increased risk of cancer and the affected women have to look for alternatives. A possible solution is the treatment with so-called phytohormones, ie extracts that are extracted from plants. But this therapy is not undisputed.
In men it is called anti-aging
While women have to grapple with the latest results on hormone replacement therapy (HET), men's menopause, with all its consequences, is subsumed under the keyword "anti-aging". This is mainly about the declining libido of men.
Viagra and Co. have become a wide field of activity for "men's doctors" who want to fight against wrinkles and hair loss with anti-aging. It is undisputed that healthy nutrition and exercise in all circumstances increase vitality and quality of life. Conversely, the different aspects of menopause also offer the opportunity to deal with his sexuality and that of his partner quite differently.
Also a new freedom
The missed menstrual bleeding signals the end of fertility. Anyone who does not have to worry about contraception can enjoy his sexuality more freely. Especially in long-term partnerships, at the time of menopause, a great deal of familiarity has set in with each other. The partners know each other well: the best place to start a new discovery together and a good opportunity to break old habits and find new ways.
Orgasm is not affected by menopause, even if the response time after menopause increases slightly. However, this phenomenon affects both men and women alike. The decisive factor is how the partners perceive themselves and what image they take of themselves.
Self-confidence makes you sexy
Of course, fatigue, listlessness and hot flashes do not make you hungry for wild sex. But touch, caresses and intimacies do not depend on hormone status. The attitude to sexuality is much more important than the physical externalities. In numerous sexual psychological studies, for example, men were asked about how they wish their partner. And across all age ranges, men said that they valued self-confident women with a positive attitude to their sexuality.
Important: closeness and familiarity
Living sexuality as a sign of closeness, familiarity and affection for one another is the key to a vibrant partnership and positive access to oneself - as long as that sexuality is not overrated. The key is that men and women realize what they want. And that's why there are also partnerships and people for whom sexuality in and after the menopause no longer plays a role.
Conversations with the partner or a trusted listener should be a cornerstone of the "load or desire question". Men's and gynecologists can help to start conversations or guide the way to the right person to talk to. The extent to which medications - whether natural or synthetic - can help must be discussed with the attending physician. The help for self-help goes over the mouth - and not through the stomach.